The role of the family in the formation of a person's personality is paramount and indisputable. In the family, the child is first aware of his physical environment, learning through all the senses the world around him, fills his mind with images of close people, objects, natural phenomena and related experiences. In the family, the child receives satisfaction of basic needs, learns value orientations, cultural and national traditions. Ideally, the first spiritual experience the child receives in the family: in the form of religion or attitude to nature.
The family is the universe for the child, and the parents are like two suns in it. Every infant and small child should feel like the center of the universe, at least for a while. Positive images of the father and mother in the inner world of the child-the basis of the psyche and the guarantee of health.
Images of parents dominate the child's mind, largely determining the nature of his relationships with people and social functioning throughout life, affecting mental stability and physical health. Parental images include, on the one hand, the personally acquired image of their own parents, and on the other – the parent archetype. These archetypes-the primordial images of the Father and Mother-are generalized images of all the mothers and fathers of the past, which are embedded in the unconscious of the child. "These most common and ever-recurring realities create powerful archetypes whose constant activity can still be directly recognized everywhere, even in our time of rationalism."
Friendship is a feeling that we seem to know everything about. When we were kids, we played in the sandbox with little kids like us, and even then we said that they were our friends. Now we have grown up and are thinking again. The word" friendship", according to the dictionary of Dahl, comes from the word" other", not like me, but at the same time it sounds something from-"I".
Friendship is not a thing that can be touched, but it can be given. Wherever we are, our friends create our world. I think the only way to have a friend is to be one.
I can say that it is not so easy to be friends. It seems to me that friendship is a kind of reward that is given not for good deeds or achievements, like everyone else, but for human qualities: honesty, justice. Friends must support each other. Without trust and support, you can not keep a friend near you, and then neither your character nor all your good features will help.
Friendship is akin to love. Of all the existing feelings, they are the most remarkable. But friendship is still better: it is less emotional than love, but at the same time more vulnerable. If a person understands that the person they trusted is no longer worthy of trust, then friendship is over. It is very difficult to restore a lost trust.
As soon as we begin to realize the importance of friendships, the word "friendship" takes on a completely different meaning, meaning and depth.
family life is formed in such a way that parental responsibilities are divided between the mother and father, and they are divided unevenly. The most important care for the care of children and the initial upbringing of children falls on the mother, both because she is able to give more time to children than the father, and because by tradition she is more used to it, and by nature can contribute to it more tenderness, gentleness, affection and care. This close participation of the mother in the life of the child at their early age determines her moral influence on them in these first years. Over the years, however, the importance of this direct care loses its primacy. Children are becoming more independent, somewhat determined, continuing to need the help of parents and adults, but they are no longer looking exclusively for material support. Children are individualized. Some have tastes and needs that are better met by the father than the mother, while others have the opposite. Little by little, children acquire gender-specific traits.
In further relationships with children, mothers use quantitative communication, and fathers use qualitative communication. A lot of adult boys and girls can remember a few words thrown by their dad. Here, of course, the father's rating is also very important. In adolescence, when all sorts of problems begin, it is also much easier for the father to find contact with the child than for the mother. Why? The father does not put as much pressure as the mother on the growing children, this is very important, mothers are just not ready to accept a lot. You need to be able to talk in these cases, not to educate and read a lecture, otherwise the child will completely close from the information, namely to talk. Direct instructions can cause the opposite reaction, but children always listen to the conversation about life, passing on skills and their experience. This is less Intrusive and more profound.
It is in communication with the father that the daughter's self – esteem is formed, and the boy's self-esteem is formed in interaction with the mother. Therefore, the relationship of parents to children of different sexes is different. Relationships with a child of the same sex are always more competitive, and relationships with a child of the opposite sex are, let's say, more harmoniously colored.
A boy needs a father as a role model, but many people do not understand that the father plays a different, equally important role in the development of a girl. The girl does not imitate her father, but his approval gives her confidence. The father can praise the daughter's beautiful dress or her hairstyle, or something that she will make with her own hands. When the girl is older, the father must show her that he values her opinion, and sometimes consult her about his Affairs. And when the girl grows up and has boy friends, it is very important that the father treats them well, even if he thinks that they are not suitable for his daughter.
Since the father forms the girl's personality in many ways, he should not say: "What an ugly girl you are", the negative should not come, because many women whose communication with their father took place in this format, the psyche was thus crippled thanks to their fathers. It is important to remember that the father forms a self-esteem for life, with what feeling will release the child into adulthood. The image of the father is largely a reaction to men in the future, their joint interaction in the future. You are raising a little Princess and there is no need to be afraid to say an extra kind word and overdo it. Support will be very necessary. In adolescence, too, especially when problems with all sorts of pimples begin, the image change, when the girl will change and as if from a caterpillar turn into a butterfly. She will doubt and wonder if she is beautiful. This is that you are the most beautiful, it will only be from dad. The mother can't give it, because the daughter's beauty causes conflicting feelings, thoughts that her beauty is not the same, she is getting old, etc. And only the father can Express his words so sincerely that the daughter will take these words with pride and love. Girls should get contact from their dad, clean, gentle, it must be. After all, who starts early sexual life, you know? These are the children, 13-14 years old, now the age has shifted very much, who lacked affection, male paternal attention. It's good if dad can Express his attitude. And dad can sometimes say a break between mom and daughter.
Learning to appreciate the qualities in the father that make him a real man, the girl is preparing to go out into the big world, half consisting of men. The type of boys and men she will be friends with when she becomes a girl, and especially the one she will love, her married life will be largely determined by the relationship that she had with her father as a child.