Passing by such a couple, you can hear: "my Bunny", "cat", "chick", "baby" or "baby". These are all addresses to each other from girls and boys. Why do lovers invent their own language of love, intimate nicknames, affectionate names for each other? What do nicknames mean? What should you do if your partner doesn't say nice words to you? Where do affectionate nicknames come from?
Coming up with nicknames is an exciting activity that comes from the heart. But on what basis do we choose them? Logic has nothing to do with it: even the most negative word, spoken with tenderness, can change the meaning. Compare at least the words "pig" and "pig". But it's not that simple. There are two reasons for love word-making-appeal to the" inner child " of a loved one and create the uniqueness of their relationship, their world. We come up with love nicknames unconsciously, but almost every one of them has a hidden meaning.
The more unusual affectionate words appear in the lexicon of lovers, the deeper and more sincere their relationship becomes.
If love leaves the relationship, then the former intimate nicknames are also "forgotten". When the relationship becomes formal-in the lexicon of lovers can remain one formal nickname, for example, "fish" - and no more creativity! If creativity continues, then your relationship is developing! There are psychologists who believe that the meaning of affectionate nicknames is not the main thing, and only sounds have an impact on us. The point is that each sound has a different effect on our senses.
There are people who generally find it difficult to "love language". Even when feelings overwhelm them, there is a verbal stupor. You are called simply by your first name, and it is rare that you can hear "beloved, dear". Does this mean that you are not loved? Not at all! As well as abundant "USI-pusi" is not talking about serious feelings. How freely we can Express our feelings depends on how tender our relationship with our parents was as a child. If a child is loved for what it is, caressed, picked up, in the future it will be natural for him to freely Express his feelings. Such people are open, loving and creative in love. And if the parents were hard and cold, the person will not be able to learn to Express their feelings. Even if he is strongly attached to his half, his feelings will be deep inside. But such people can be loyal and constant!
When asked why you don't say nice words to me, you will be answered "I hate veal tenderness" or "I have already said that I love, why repeat?". This is just a defense! How to awaken the tenderness of your soulmate? Be affectionate and gentle yourself, but do not pester him with questions "tell me how you love me?". If your lover did not learn tenderness in childhood, he has a chance to learn it from you. Be patient!