When we talk about falling in love, we mean chemistry, that is, the mutual attraction that occurs between two people. It bursts into life unexpectedly and appears as if by itself. It cannot be prevented or silenced by force. This is not a conscious choice, but a manifestation of instinct.
You are ready to devote all your time and energy to your partner, he becomes the best person on earth for you. You shrug off the advice of others, believing that you know better who is right for you. Gradually, these feelings fade, and for some, the return to reality is painful.
The feeling of love generates a certain range of emotions-both positive and negative. For example, it can be love in joy and delight, or, on the contrary, love in which anger, sadness, and frustration prevail.
Because the feelings and emotions of each individual person depend on what he is: on the characteristics of his psyche and physiology, on the development of his personality, as well as on education, life experience, sphere of activity, social status, faith, the influence of other people and other aspects. Simply put, as a person is, so is their love.
Let's say two people meet, and there is sympathy between them, then love, which eventually develops into a stable feeling called love. Or it doesn't outgrow, and the connection is cut off.
Falling in love is due to the fact that at the beginning of attraction to each other develops on the basis of a primary biochemical reaction — activated areas of the brain, the pleasure center, and there is an active attraction of people to each other.
This period passes under the aegis of passion, but it still exists at the level of superficial intimacy, in which the two show mostly only their positive sides in both emotions and behavior.
In addition, it is proven that during the period of love, partners tend to idealize each other. This is a wonderful time of enjoying intimacy, a time of joy and pleasure, when almost everything goes by the wayside, and relationships become the dominant feature of life. A person in this period blooms: younger, thinner, eyes burning, energy over the edge.
Love and passion can not last forever: the human psyche is not able to constantly be at the peak of its capabilities, so gradually begins to calm down. This does not mean the end of the relationship, just the time has come to move to the next level of reciprocity, when hyperemotional love can develop into a feeling called love, deeper and longer-term.
It's as if two people "fell out" of the world of reality during their falling in love, and now it's time to return to the real world. For some, the return takes place in closeness and joy: holding hands, they begin to know the feeling of love. For others, relationships break down, bringing suffering, Heartbreak, and loneliness.
The fact is that when the time of euphoria passes and reality comes, partners Wake up and come to the surface previously unnoticed manifestations of personality. Suddenly, we become familiar with negative character traits, reactions, behavior patterns, complexes, fears, and "ghosts" of a loved one's past life. This inevitably affects the relationship, and a stage of pronounced contradictions occurs, leading to a basic conflict.