You can't leave your mobile phone for a minute, you even drag it to the bathroom? You want to eat a slice of pizza again, even though you complained about overeating half an hour ago? Yes, you have a diagnosis! Dependence. About what are the main types of addictions in modern man and how to deal with them.
This is a new dependency - on the phone. More precisely, the fear (phobia) of being left without it. It develops due to a hallucination that the brain sees. For example: we look at photos published on a social network on our phone - and this is something that isn't there. To see the world for real, you need to be in the place that is captured in the picture.
The changed virtual world has become very accessible. And the more accessible the drug , the more addicts there are. We overexcite the brain with social networks, an abundance of information - and begin to miss it, become dependent on it, instead of going with the family to ride bicycles.
By the way, in China, there are already rehabilitation centers for nomophobes-there they are isolated from gadgets, engaged in occupational therapy. And they prescribe General therapy, as a result of which the person must understand that withdrawal is not what HE wants. Withdrawal is what the underlying DISEASE wants. This is what all addicts are taught - to distinguish between what I want and what my inner ENEMY wants.
Similar to nomophobia. Children can clearly see this: no matter what they watch, even the most cute educational cartoons, but after watching them for a while, they do not want to do anything but continue to watch "Telek"! However, this dependency is not so common, because the TV is less virtualized.
Dependence on another person
There are studies that show that people who experience passionate love, there is insomnia and loss of sense of time.
Gambling addiction. It seems to consist of excitement and a feeling of freebies. Gamblers lose their real idea of the value of money. They go to work, but they are not happy with their earnings, they immediately lose money in the game.
Gambling addicts, I believe, are harder to treat than alcoholics. They have the same withdrawal, withdrawal. But gamblers also have too great a contrast between how they treat themselves ("I'm normal"!), and how - society ("stupid, pathetic").
One of the reasons for its appearance is the lack of food. For example, we know that the last century in our country was associated with a large number of starving people.A person who has not starved himself, but has been brought up by those who have experienced a lack of food, as if trying on its super-significance. And when we treat something as super important, we are afraid to lose it. And this fear is the same withdrawal, withdrawal!
What does our consumer society say? They say that shopping is a stress reliever. And people run to the shops, experience euphoria, then - often-disappointment (why did I buy all this?!), often get into debt, loans...
Modern society, alas, very much likes to remove the symptoms - the same depression. Meanwhile, the disease is progressing. What is this disease? Depression is a conflict with the world, with reality. Negative emotions-from the word "denial". Man denies the world as it is.
I had a patient who was addicted to it. They are always afraid of getting sick. In other words, it is hypochondria. And it should be treated as hypochondria: a person should accept the possibility of getting sick, accept pain as part of life, go through pain in the imagination - and the brain will stop experiencing fear. He will relax emotionally.
Or dependence on work-when a person is constantly looking for confirmation of their significance. If he doesn't find it, he feels uncomfortable. This is done by someone who initially does not feel a sense of significance, is not self-sufficient. A person tries to shut up this problem by serving a certain cause, but in fact he is exhausting himself.
A sex addict is dependent on an orgasm, and when there is no orgasm, he suffers. However, I must say that all people are more or less sex-dependent, it is a tool for procreation. Like all people, we are dependent on food, because if we don't eat, we will starve and then die.
Is it possible to live without dependencies?
"You can strive, but you can't live. Dependency is a limitation. And its antagonist - freedom - is the absence of restrictions. But a person does not have absolute freedom. We are born with addictions - from food, water, air. Well, and the company then completes the life of other dependencies. The only question is whether we allow it to society or not. For example, we begin to think critically: why do we impose shopaholism as a stress reliever? Ah understandable same why: need to sell! And when we include such a rational approach, we will no longer be mired in dependencies.